Today I’ve heard on a radio, that nowadays it is a turn off for women when guy offers to pay for a dinner on a first date… I have to admit that it perturbed me a lot. Women teach men to be irresponsible by doing so. That is where we lead our society. But why? Is it a really good tendency to drop your kid in a kindergarten after a month, since child was born and go back to work? Yes, many women love their jobs (it is a big topic, for another post), but you can’t be a greatest mother and a successful careerist. You have to pick one. I am talking about people who wants a classic family and raise their children themselves and not put this duty on nannies or kindergartens.
According to what I’ve heard, one of the reason for this “don’t pay for me” was to avoid problem, where man offers to “pay back” for the dinner, inviting to his place. Women have to be able to say “no”, it shouldn’t be a problem! They should not just to run away from a problem, letting men think that it is alright to really expect to have sex on a first date for just a cup of coffee. Again, I am talking about dates for the serious relationships in mind. I don’t understand why women hate to be women so much. Since when it is bad to be a center of the family? Since when it is bad to motivate your man to reach greatness, as his nature is? By doing everything for men, we just show them that we don’t need them, so they don’t see any point of being a man. They don’t see a point to work hard, to provide for the family, to take responsibility! Men wants to feel needed, to feel strong…to feel to be a hero, after all, when they can reach any goal. Don’t try to take away manhood from the men. Nowadays it is so common, that sadly, many men forgot this sweet taste of win, of achievement, of pride. They like to lay down on a couch and play video games, while their woman doing everything on her own: work, cook, clean, raise kids. We take away responsibilities, we take away manliness from men and in the end, complain that so many jerks are around (not all, of course. There are still many great men out there, and I wish to grow number of them, to make them happy, as well as their women). But we teach men to be jerks and that they don’t have to respect women to get what they want.
I understand that this is a huge topic and it has different sites, but this is just very sad, that women are becoming men, and as result, men are becoming women. Why? We are different, we should not hate who we are. Women are kind, beautiful, emotional and that is alright. Times of “no rights for women” has passed, we should stop proving that we can do everything. We can! It is proven! Now it is time to embrace nature of each gender and enjoy it. Females and males have different hormones, which makes our brains work differently, so yes, we are different. It isn’t shameful to be a woman, who asks for respect, who asks for a safety in the family, and who always supports her husband. This support is not reached by pushing own achievements and money (as you are business partner), but by motivation and harmony at home, where your whole family can smile and enjoy evening, instead of arguing who did more today, and who has a bigger, you know what.
I don’t ask to take this view as the only right, but as I said before, if you are not happy in your relations, or relations don’t even develop, then maybe it is time to look at them differently? I am saying it after taken a big course of relations between men and women. Sorry for repeating myself, but I just want to make point that this course helped many families and it isn’t just a random opinion. This can be a hot topic, but I don’t want to argue with anybody, but sometimes I look around and feel that something is getting missing in our society. Doesn’t anyone relate?